Happiness

They estimate that the happiness of acquiring something that we don’t have (constantly yearning for something we do not have) to be far greater than the pain of remaining without it.

For example, Fulfilling relationships – we shift from one without allowing ourselves to appreciate what we have been yearning for.

Studies reveal that the joy of knowing you are going on holiday is actually far greater than the experience of the holiday itself. The build-up/excitement/fantasy mode brings us joy.

We Create high expectations. The joy is often less than that anticipation.

Also, We are not very good at remembering what made us happy or unhappy in our past.  Our estimates become more exaggerated, the further we are from the present.

Paradox: Expectations are amplified. But do not lower expectations, we just need to become more comfortable with failure. Saviour the inevitable failure. The ability to fail and still appreciate the experience, this is a fundamental building block for happiness.

Meeting our Reality – we make up so much in our mind, about the past and future. We exaggerate everything in those moments. 

It not as traumatic, as we remember it to be, we have amplified it. On a higher level it is serving us in a way. A particular treasure to work with. Realise this and then lesson it, challenge own perception of your own path. This idea and this identity. You have come to believe it. You can be whoever you want to be. It is again based on the Concept of perceptional awareness. 

Once we come to terms with the reality of failing, we start to meet reality. We start to be less afraid of the course of reality and what it can bring up.

What is happiness?

Honestly, we have no idea. 

We have so many different interweaving streams, which we use as a base  as a foundation to make so many decisions.

IF I have this, or do this or have this relationship, different past, new job, friends i’ll be happy….

But the idea that you had a scarcity, the lack which created this want and need which moved you into a distortion of unhappiness.

In other words we are already happy, we just believe we are not because of the ideas that we have around lack, scarcity and so we create the wound to feel unhappy, to make us feel unhappy and unwhole.

True happiness comes from within.

So the key is to find ways in how we  can anchor that self love, in a more stronger, permanent and continuous manner.

This is the work. 

Keeping up with a level of practice which fills you up.